Every time I come across a video of a pretty girl, I am stunned at the hate comments.
Being a pretty girl comes with perks, yes.
Free drinks. Extra attention. Doors held open. Strangers treating you like royalty. It sounds like a dream. And sometimes, it is.
But the reality? It’s complicated.
From the time you’re little, people tell you that beauty is a gift.
I don’t deny that Pretty Privilege exists.
But I’ve talked to more than 1 pretty girl and it’s not all roses and rainbows.
They praise your looks and comment on your hair, your eyes, and your smile. They tell you to enjoy it, to use it, to be grateful. But they don’t tell you about the other side. The side that makes you doubt yourself.
The side that makes relationships feel tricky. The side that makes you question if people like you, or just the way you look.
There’s a loneliness in being admired but not understood.
A pressure to always look perfect, to never slip up. And when things go wrong, people assume you have it easy.
They dismiss your struggles because, well, you’re pretty. What could you possibly have to complain about?
And here are seven ugly truths about being a pretty girl.
1. People assume you’re dumb
Some think beauty and brains can’t coexist.
They underestimate you.
Talk down to you.
Act surprised when you prove them wrong.
It’s incredibly frustrating. You constantly have to prove your intelligence.
You wish people saw beyond your face.
2. Women can be cruel
Not all, but some.
They judge you before you even speak.
They see you as some sort of competition. Sometimes, they exclude you from things. Other times, they spread rumors.
You try to be kind, but it doesn’t always help. It stings when women assume you’re the enemy.
3. Men put you on a pedestal
It sounds nice. Until you realize they don’t see the real you.
They project their fantasies onto you. They expect perfection.
They get disappointed when you’re just… human. If you make a mistake, they take it personally.
Some feel entitled to your time, your attention, and your body. It’s exhausting.
4. Friendships can feel fake
Are they your friend because they like you? Or because they like the attention you bring? It’s hard to tell.
Sometimes, people just want to be seen with you. Other times, they compete with you.
True friends are rare. When you find them, you hold on tight.
5. Your value feels tied to your looks
People praise you for your beauty.
Compliments feel good, but they also feel… hollow. Because what happens when you age? When beauty fades?
You wonder if people will still care. If you’ll still matter. You try to build your confidence on things that last. Skills. Kindness. Achievements.
But society doesn’t make it easy.
6. Jealousy can ruin relationships
Romantic partners can struggle with insecurity. Some don’t trust you around other men. Others try to control you.
You’ve been accused of things you haven’t done. You’ve had to reassure partners over and over.
Love should be built on trust, but jealousy poisons it.
7. You feel unseen
Ironically, being pretty can make you invisible.
People see your face, your body, your hair. But they don’t see you. Your thoughts, your dreams, your struggles.
You crave deeper conversations.
You long for someone to ask, How are you, really? But too often, they only ask what shade of lipstick you wear.
Being pretty isn’t a curse. But it isn’t a free pass to happiness either.
The world sees the surface, but you live beneath it. The only way to survive? Stay true to yourself.
Find people who love you for you.
And never let beauty define your worth.
