Last Updated on April 8, 2023 by Angela Vaz
It stings you.
You feel it is unwarranted.
And you’re thinking, “Why did my ex block me out of nowhere?”
In this post, I’ll cover several reasons why your ex may have blocked you and also give you some examples as I have experienced this myself.
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1. They want to resist temptation
Your ex may not be over you.
And a huge part of them wants to move on.
But they also want to contact you or look at your profile and know how you’re doing.
It’s totally normal.
We aren’t on and off switches.
Feelings just don’t magically disappear when you want them to.
So one of the main reasons why your ex may have blocked you is to avoid temptation.
Perhaps they don’t want to keep seeing your updates or they don’t want to keep seeing glimpses of their past because they may feel tempted to check in on you or text you.
2. The breakup was painful
You have to understand that people handle pain very differently.
Some like revisiting those memories to remember how they felt, whereas others close off from their pain and want nothing to do with it.
Your ex and you may have had a very difficult split where either one of you was not ready or didn’t take it well.
Either way, if your ex hasn’t recovered or moved on, they may want to have nothing to do with the memory because it’s too painful to revisit.
3. They have something to prove
Perhaps they are in a new relationship and their new partner is always peeping into their phone.
Or they talk about you a lot and their new partner is wary of you.
Either way, they could be trying to make their new partner happy by proving to them that you don’t mean much.
And that may be the reason why they have blocked you – to avoid any drama between them and their new partner.
4. They don’t want to hear from you again
Whether the relationship between you was good or bad, some people like keeping the past in the past.
Maybe they are worried that you might message them or call them asking them to get back together.
And maybe they’re just not ready to hear from you and want some space.
Or perhaps they are so intimidated by hearing from you, that their anxiety is driving the front wheel and their only safety mechanism is to block you.
It’s totally normal and it’s quite common.
5. They are angry
Maybe your ex was the vengeful type.
Did he always take it out on you when he felt threatened by something you did?
My ex-husband would always block me even when I was married to him because he’d be in a huff or get angry.
His solution to getting angry was fighting or proving that I was wrong.
He loved punishing his family and me whenever we didn’t agree with him.
His way of putting us in our place was blocking us.
Initially, it upset me but eventually, I got used to that kind of treatment.
I was in a toxic relationship and I am so glad that I am no longer associated with that kind of behavior.
So, if your ex was the vengeful type, please be grateful that it has happened. Use this opportunity to move far away from that kind of person and don’t look back.
6. They just want your attention
Some people like to play games.
This is another example of toxic behavior.
They can never have honest communication because they don’t like doing it that way.
They play mind games.
And if your ex was the kind of person who always did things to get your attention instead of just asking you for it, chances are – this is one of those times.
In this case, I would suggest that you move on and take their blocking you as a sign that it’s over.
You never want to initiate a relationship with anyone who plays mind games.
They are dreadful because you never know what they are thinking and everything takes forever to sort out since they prefer drama over communication.
Move away from that and lead a peaceful life.
7. They don’t want to have anything to do with you
Maybe you’ve tried contacting them or maybe you’ve been asking them for a chance.
Either way, they want you to move on and they want to move on too.
Perhaps the only way to move on was the end all lines of communication.
In this case, let it go.
Make peace with the fact that they have blocked you and move on with your life.
What to do when he blocks me everywhere?
1. Make peace with it
When a door closes, it can take some time for us to adjust because we are not used to seeing a closed door.
We are human beings with feelings.
I keep reiterating that because many people expect to move on as if nothing has happened.
But relationships are personal.
When they suddenly end without reason, it can feel like the whole world has turned upside down, as if the rug has just been pulled out from underneath you.
I know this feeling.
I have been through it 2 times.
Once with my ex-husband, when I found out he was cheating on me.
And second with my ex-boyfriend who left me because he couldn’t be with a divorcee (for religious reasons).
I had to make peace with being single.
And it wasn’t easy.
I really struggled with my self-confidence and I had to get back on my feet and realize that I was more than just a partner.
Accepting that you are no longer in a relationship or that your ex is over you, is hard.
But you need to accept it because that is the only way forward.
2. Move on
Life is so much more than being in a relationship.
It may be something you desperately want.
It may be something you desperately desire.
You may be extremely pining to be in a loving relationship because you have so much love to give.
But please understand that you can’t have a relationship with someone who doesn’t want it as much as you do.
You aren’t right for them and they aren’t right for you.
If you were, it never would have ended.
Honestly, move on.
You may still love this person and maybe they may love you back.
But please trust me, you don’t want to chase a person that doesn’t give you the time of day.
By chasing someone who has made it clear where you stand, you are saying no to all future possibilities of love from people who are willing to give it to you.
I tell this to everyone who is in pain over their ex.
3. Know that it is for the best
By chasing the wrong person, you are saying NO to the right person.
Somewhere out there is someone who will return your feelings and love you just as much as you love them.
But in order to find that person, you need to move on.
Moving on isn’t easy.
Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean the relationship will work.
You may love your ex very deeply and feel like they were the right person for you.
But if they were the right person for you, the relationship would never have ended.
This is a harsh truth.
I remember feeling this way when my ex ended the relationship out of the blue and just left.
I felt like he was the one that got away.
I was in pure agony.
And it took me a long time to get over the feelings of denial and make peace with the breakup.
I allowed myself to feel pain and eventually overcame that loss.
I made peace with being single.
And with time, I actually found someone who genuinely loved me and respected me.
Our relationship is stronger than ever and I would never have found this person if I didn’t let my ex go.
So, my honest advice to you is to move on.
Stop worrying about him having the last word, or you not getting closure.
Close the book of the past and move on. You have your whole life ahead of you.
4. Do not take revenge
You have nothing to prove to anyone.
Let them tell the world that they ended it with you.
If they have to exaggerate or lie to get sympathy, so be it.
Everybody operates differently.
Maybe they hurt you, maybe you hurt them.
Either way, there is no coming back from this because the relationship is over.
Make peace with the fact that it is over and move on.
Don’t try to get back at them or show them that you don’t care.
The best way to move on is to actually move on and get on with your life.
This transition is going to be painful and hard. Nobody has it easy.
But you will get over this and you will find peace and love again.
5. Take your time to heal
Healing happens slowly.
It isn’t linear either.
Getting over heartbreak is one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done in my life.
I have lost my mom to cancer, and I’ve been cheated on by my ex-husband.
But getting over heartbreak beats all that pain.
That pain was unbearable and I felt like someone had ripped out my heart.
I couldn’t even imagine how to fathom living.
I took it moment by moment.
I distracted myself from the pain by doing anything that would distract me.
I’d watch TV, I’d sleep for hours on end and I went to therapy.
The first few weeks were torture.
But eventually, the pain became less.
I started falling in love with life again.
I started drawing more, writing more, I even got a piano.
I learned how to play.
I read books on breakups to help me understand how other people did it.
That helped me the most.
I watched Youtube videos on people who went through breakups and rediscovered their best lives.
I fell in love with cooking.
Slowly, I learned to make peace with being single, I fell in love with my life.
It was indeed painful, but it was also eye-opening.
So, my advice to you is to heal.
Do it at your own pace but take your time – don’t rush.
Feel the pain and do things anyway.
Meditate, journal, walk, dance, eat, sleep, and do all the things you feel like doing.
Instead of seeing yourself in a box, see yourself as a person who’s free instead.
Do whatever you want – there is nobody stopping you.
Does being blocked by an ex hurt?
Of course, it does. We are human.
We feel pain because we have emotions and we aren’t robots.
But we need to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
If your ex has blocked you, take it as a clear sign that they want nothing more to do with you.
They have made their intentions clear.
So, you have to move on come what may.
You have to keep the past in the past.
Please understand that people will walk into your life and leave a lot. Not everybody stays forever.
But every single person that walked into your life had a part to play.
Maybe they taught you a valuable lesson on love, kindness, patience, or something else.
Maybe they showed you a corner of yourself that you thought never existed.
Either way, take the lessons you’ve learned in your relationship and move on.
Don’t look back.
There will be new people that enter your life again and make it so much more beautiful.
There are so many wonderful people in the world and if you keep pining for your ex (who doesn’t give a hoot about you), then you’re never going to meet these people.
So, move on.
How do you contact someone who blocked you everywhere?
You learn that this person obviously wants space from you and is not interested in talking to you.
And if you genuinely care for their well-being, you’ll give them what they want and let them go.
It’s going to be difficult especially because you might still want to say a lot of things.
But closure is a myth. It doesn’t bring peace, only more confusion, and pain.
Let it go.
Let them move on.
And you do the same.
For the sake of peace, you need to learn to let go and find your way in this world.
Maybe you might want them back. But you have to make peace with the fact that they don’t.
Don’t chase somebody that doesn’t want you the same way you want them.
Nothing good will come from it.
It is going to be a very unfruitful venture.
Move on so that one day you can find someone that loves you the same way you love them.
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